For professional and personal reasons I never talk about my job when I blog. But just this once I am going to speak in some generalities that won't put me in any professional hot water.
So anyway, brothers, can we talk? Have you ever wondered why it's so hard for some black men to build wealth? I have a theory, and it has to do with some of the things I see everyday on my plantation. Primarily, brothers having children out of wedlock; or children they were not prepared for. In case you didn't notice, kids are expensive. Let's forget, for a minute, the emotional commitment it takes to raise a child. We all know (at least we should) that there is a financial cost as well. A cost that happens to be mandated by law. So if you are a working man with just so much disposable income, bringing a little bundle of joy into the world without staking out your financial future isn't so smart.
I was moved to write about this subject after being punched in the gut with yet another frightening statistic about black children being born out of wedlock: SEVENTY TWO PERCENT! Let's forget about the wedlock part for a minute. Because, frankly, if daddy is at home and mommy and daddy didn't say I do, I don't really care. As long as daddy is home or close by holding it down, it's all good. Now there are a myriad of reasons, I am sure, for the high out of wedlock birth rate. --The article I link gives a few of them. But I submit to you my brothers that we could start bringing these numbers down tomorrow if we would just remember to strap on "jimmy" before we jam.
Having a child before you are ready--- or in a serious commitment with the child's mother, is not cool. If you are court ordered to pay child support (Which you shouldn't be. If the horse already left the barn you should be handling your business.) it will take a big chunk out of your finances, and you will always be behind the financial eight ball. This will leave you with no disposable income to save.
"...The drug epidemic sent disproportionate numbers of black men to prison and crushed the job opportunities for those who served their time. Women do not want to marry men who cannot provide for their families, and welfare laws created a financial incentive for poor mothers to stay single.
If you remove these inequalities, some say, the 72 percent will decrease.
“It’s all connected. The question should be, how has the black family survived at all?” says Maria Kefalas, co-author of “Promises I Can Keep: Why Poor Women Put Motherhood Before Marriage.”
The book is based on interviews with 162 low-income single mothers. One of its conclusions is that these women see motherhood as one of life’s most fulfilling roles, a rare opportunity for love and joy, husband or no husband. "
So anyway, brothers, can we talk? Have you ever wondered why it's so hard for some black men to build wealth? I have a theory, and it has to do with some of the things I see everyday on my plantation. Primarily, brothers having children out of wedlock; or children they were not prepared for. In case you didn't notice, kids are expensive. Let's forget, for a minute, the emotional commitment it takes to raise a child. We all know (at least we should) that there is a financial cost as well. A cost that happens to be mandated by law. So if you are a working man with just so much disposable income, bringing a little bundle of joy into the world without staking out your financial future isn't so smart.
I was moved to write about this subject after being punched in the gut with yet another frightening statistic about black children being born out of wedlock: SEVENTY TWO PERCENT! Let's forget about the wedlock part for a minute. Because, frankly, if daddy is at home and mommy and daddy didn't say I do, I don't really care. As long as daddy is home or close by holding it down, it's all good. Now there are a myriad of reasons, I am sure, for the high out of wedlock birth rate. --The article I link gives a few of them. But I submit to you my brothers that we could start bringing these numbers down tomorrow if we would just remember to strap on "jimmy" before we jam.
Having a child before you are ready--- or in a serious commitment with the child's mother, is not cool. If you are court ordered to pay child support (Which you shouldn't be. If the horse already left the barn you should be handling your business.) it will take a big chunk out of your finances, and you will always be behind the financial eight ball. This will leave you with no disposable income to save.
"...The drug epidemic sent disproportionate numbers of black men to prison and crushed the job opportunities for those who served their time. Women do not want to marry men who cannot provide for their families, and welfare laws created a financial incentive for poor mothers to stay single.
If you remove these inequalities, some say, the 72 percent will decrease.
“It’s all connected. The question should be, how has the black family survived at all?” says Maria Kefalas, co-author of “Promises I Can Keep: Why Poor Women Put Motherhood Before Marriage.”
The book is based on interviews with 162 low-income single mothers. One of its conclusions is that these women see motherhood as one of life’s most fulfilling roles, a rare opportunity for love and joy, husband or no husband. "
Sorry mommy, if daddy can't afford to come out of his pocket, maybe you should find fulfillment from a nice hobby.
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«Oldest ‹Older 201 – 215 of 215"Granted a lot of black boys don't have the inhouse male influence to guide them and that's where black women have to step up and school their daughters and stop the pathetic victimhood."
this was a precious little jewel. LOL. so...bw step up and teach the daughters...THEN what? that leaves half of the problem TOTALLY unaddressed!
ok. i am done killing brain cells. you are your wife's headache.
pardon the typos. moving quickly.
LA-
speak! you crack me up the way you tell it.
hilarity. reading through the comments, you and AB already said it all.
UTS,
I swear that I've seen at least a dozen times among people that I've known over the years....women lying about being on birth control and getting pregnant to trap or punish men, lying about being pregnant to get money from men to supposedly get abortions or willingly getting knocked up by guys who have no intention on being with them permanently because they think they'll have a "pretty baby".
Is this hearsay or have you personally been involved with these women.
rk:
haters and liars rule this blog
their daily attacks are ignored
but ONLY my retaliatory attacks garner attn...why is that????
are my slayings just so much better than theirs???
ie
i am not hairy either...so????
i have no moustache either...so??
u said nothing about that as usual
"bruh"
it truly repulses me every time you play captain save-a-wigga-ho for maria and ignore all of the kkk beta male abuses i endure herein.
and u euro bros have a universal habit of running to the defenses of marias exclusively...and it is truly shameful
unlike u
i love myself and my mama
so
just as u love and protect wfs exclusively
i love black women exclusively
always have
always will
fyi
laa:
ditto
unlike rk
i have never touched desired or dated any wf in my life
i adore sista clones ONLY
and i assure u
the jungle fevered maria would LOVE me...
i am sexually harassed by male and female wigga clones of her her daily
rk:
u admittedly ignored so many posts
yet chose to respond only to defend the wf bimbo wigga whore maria
doing that nig deed was most important to you within all the deep black nation saving posts herein yesterday..."too many" to bother
do even you not see what that says about u and your own twisted euro priorities and self hatred????
"bruh"???
tragic!!!
rk:
we all know that YOU truly appreciate maria
as i do my wife
and all beautiful black women
unlike u rk
I have never seen anything or anyone more beautiful than BLACK women
u chat with her by phone etc...
so
the way u just posted "trust me" was redundant
it has been crystal clear that maria is one of your stable of white whores for a very long time
we all get that
no need to boast about your intimacy with and wf hobbies like maria...
it impresses only you & uts....fyi
Steve said: "Granted a lot of black boys don't have the inhouse male influence to guide them and that's where black women have to step up and school their daughters and stop the pathetic victimhood."
Yet when FP, AB, myself and others start "schooling" and preaching to other black women the importance of properly evaluating their partners and avoiding these same type of non-marriageable "black boys" who are in abundance in the Black comm, you call it... black male bashing. So which is it, Steve?
FP said: "i won't even add the layer of molestation that runs RAMPID amongs blacks. some of these women were being sexed at 8 and nine years of age."
Thank you!
"OMG! mr. keep your legs closed didn't tell his boys to keep their pants up until they found a wife since condoms are NOT fail safe?! oh, that's right, males are sexual creatures."
LOL. I know. Steve have said many times something like women/girls should keep their legs closed until they get married, but here he is giving his unmarried sons the green light to have sex. So who the heck are his little casanegros having sex with?
"the woefully male identified females are on this thread like flies on poop. notice they will come harder with other women than they would EVER dream of coming with the men. good job sista soldiers!"
Yes girl, the "Project Protect a Brotha" and the "League of Mammie Mission Fighters" are always on the prowl. Watch your back! LOL.
AB girl, I actually won't be surprised they take it that far to be on the phone. That poor woman has been working towards her goal for being on this blog from day one. Somehow her type always figure out how most black men would accept 'anything' outside their race. It's her last hope, I hope she hurry finds one. RK is the best candidate, it was only a matter of time with his track record, the hook up was inevitable.
Ok time for bed.
uts-
no, i don't have any oow children. that trickbag that many black women clutch in their desire to have black children, has never appealed to me. as i have said repeatedly, WIVES have babies. folks can pretend if they want to, but there ARE certain protections granted by having children within the institution of marriage. those that have children outside of marriage are putting themselves in a precarious situation at best.
these poor women declaring they want motherhood, are not truly calling it truthfully. they want black babies and are willing to mule away because quite a few bm have demonstrated consistently that they are willing to make the babies and that's about it. when it comes time to make a way and provision for the children they consensually helped create, they instead default to excuses, finger pointing, absolving themselves of responsibility, and blame shifting. noticing this backwards antithesis to survival behavior and speaking on it is consistently referred to as "bashing".
it is interesting to note that those that point out "not all bm" whatever the topic might be, don't make a peep when bw are being raked over the coals. it is truly interesting indeed and to be expected based on the consistent patterns of behavior.
uts, you are a hopeless case indeed. why do you even bother to address me? you have the good sense God gave a pencil, yet you insist on on clowning yourself. it is truly a sad spectacle to witness. one must truly laugh in order to keep from crying. YOU are an elder? truly, there is NOthing worse than an old fool. your foolishness on this thread was to such an extreme that Hathor stopped with the inquiries and attempted to school you. i noticed her disclaimer that she is not one to "bash" prior to her moment of candor. LOL. keep it up uts. you and those like you, do more for waking bw up than you know, and i sincerely thank you.
btw, do YOU have oow children? i suppose i should temper that question by adding, "that you know of?" LOL. if you don't know about them, that is they BEST excuse for not raising, providing for, or protecting them. shrug. it was a rhetorical question. in truth, i don't care. your wife is proof positive that there is and always will be silly women always willing to allow the most unworthy of males to move their dna forward.
people stop buying into this crap...pleez? they keep pushing this because they do not want US to have strong families. being wed-locked does not mean that you are a strong family. they do this because they know a strong Black family gene's will make their weak gene's disappear.
AB-
sis the silence on this thread as you are attacked is just an example of what is happening on a larger scale. somehow, more than not, among bfolks, many don't get worked up when bw are being attacked. bm stand around like coward mealy mouths and the sista soldiering sistas pile on the abuse, disrespect, and doo doo. you know those same sistas that go in attack mode when someone dares to say ANYTHING about quite a few bm.
it seems that somewhere along the way, folks have just accepted that bw are to fend for ourselves AND protect bm. i am opting OUT of that lunacy. as many as will listen will be encouraged, without unapology to do the same. i am NOT Harriet Tubman, i will not attempt to force anyone to embrace their freedom. i am speaking ONLY to those interested to SEIZE their freedom without apology. that's gonna take some courage. those waiting for folks to drag them kicking and screaming to freedom may find themselves SOL, and rightfully so.
sis, it is because of the consistent, sustained observed behavior of quite a few bm that i don't bother making a peep on behalf of bm. women are NOT the protectors and providers. we are the nurturers and teachers. however, IF he is a bm i know that has DEMONSTRATED by his CONSISTENT SUSTAINED BEHAVIOR that he has MY back, i will reciprocate. he will need to lead and prove first though. those that start out strong and then fall off...get CUT OFF. NOTHING of value on earth is unconditional. folks will need to miss me with the notion that MY support, love, respect, and consideration should be. i am not sorry.
when bw are being blasted, WHO speaks for us? so when the anons bring it to the bm collective...you will always hear crickets from me. let the ww and nonblk women they adore, protect and try overtime to understand and get have their backs. which is why i asked about oscar grant's nonblk woman recently.
i have seen too many times, bm suddenly understand sexism when looking at what ww face in dealing with wm. lol. all that collective protection, provision, pedestal erecting notwithstanding. these SAME fools choose to be ambivalent if not indifferent to what bw face from wm, ww AND bm.
maria addressed the increase of oow with ww. lol. wonder how much of that has to do with so many ww clamoring to grip the trickbag quite a few bm are expecting them to hold, like they expect all women they deal with to hold? (shout out to tiki barber's wife.) how much of that has to do with so many ww thinking they ARE better than non-ww and thus will be treated better? THIS is why i say...GET SOME and bring your friends. if Nicole Brown Simpson, R.I.P, had hooked a ww friend up with Jim Brown, that would have been one less abused bw. ANY woman that sees the disrespect hurled at bw by so many bm, and STILL chooses to believe she is "special", i thank them for their services.
hope this comment makes it through. AB, sis, stay up. blessings to you .
fp:
u speak poetry and wisdom as always sista
thanks!
peace and blessings to u too
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