"They have abandoned their responsibilities, acting like boys instead of men. And the foundations of our families are weaker because of it...."
That was the "O" man yesterday giving a special little father's day message to his own peeps from the pulpit of one of the houses that jesus built.
Let me read that quote again: Okay, nothing wrong there. The man is right, many of our men are acting like boys, and our families are weaker as a result of their actions. Nothing new there, it's the kind of shit that I have been talking about as someone who sees this problem up front and personal on a daily basis, from day one.
Of course some of our black men are ducking their responsibilities and not acting like fathers. Of course it is having a negative effect on our communities. So why were so much of us mad at the "O" man for his little Father's Day message to his fam.? People like my friend Keith for instance (His real first name, he won't mind), who stormed into my office today with some choice words for the "O" man.
"You know what field. I might have just had it with that Negro Obama. Man I am so sick of the same Cosby bullshit. Here I was coming home from the beach on Father's Day with my two little ones, kicking back to watch the television, and I have to listen to this Negro tell me what bad fathers black men are; all to appease white folks." Keith's son is autistic, he is an attorney who actually gave up some serious billable hours to spend more time with his son. From everything I can tell, he is a devoted and loving father, and he is seriously holding down on the family front. "Come on field, what do you think of this shit?" Yeah, I hear you except Obama is right. Honestly man, I don't have a problem with what he said. Maybe it's because I don't have any kids. But I didn't take that shit personally." Yeah but did he have to preach to us like that? Come on field on Father's Day? he should be talking about some of the positive brothers out here, and some of the root causes which prevent black men from being good fathers. You know, like this ...."I know I know, the court system and the child support system in place." We both laughed. Did I mention that Keith is a defense lawyer who represents quite a few male defendant's in our court? That is one of his pet peeves, the child support guidelines here in Pennsylvania.
Keith and I ended that discussion and moved on to other things. But then I came home tonight and ironically there was Dr. Marc Lamont Hill on FOX NOISE talking about the same thing, right down to the child support guidelines (He lives in Pennsylvania too). And quite a few other black folks besides my man Keith seem to be pissed at the "O" man for his little Sista Souljah type moment. Most of the black folks that I talked to (yes even the Obamaholics) feel that what the "O" man did was political gamesmanship done to get white folks, and especially conservative white folks to be sympathetic to his campaign. Trust me, nothing gets a black man more "brownie points" with conservative white folks than talking about his own people. Did you see that Barack tell it like it is to the other blacks? I like that guy, he reminds me of Cos. He has balls.......ahhh yes, calling out your own, and saying what other people say about your ass secretly but are afraid to say publicly, will always make you a hero in A-merry-ca. Just ask Chris Rock or Bill Cosby.
But again, how can I rip the guy? What he said was true. Why is it okay for some field Negro talking shit on his blog to say the same thing, or a bunch of black folks at a barbecue to talk about the same thing and agree on that point? But Barack Obama, who is running for President, can't state the obvious? Well, because he is running for President I guess, and everything he says will be scrutinized for political purposes. Everything he says will be viewed form a political context and this, of course, is what's happening now. Poor "O" man, he just can't win. Damned if he does damned if he doesn't.
Boy, I sure hope that you black folks don't think that if the "O" man wins he is going to be just our president. He will be the president of everybody in these divided states. And when he talks about shit that effects black folks, he won't be able to go on a black radio station with a secret black frequency and say, hey black folks, I have a message for you. Nope, everybody is going to hear that shit. It's called the information age. Let's face it folks, we just can't hide shit from white folks anymore. Hell, I bet some of them are reading this very post right now.....