*Every time I do a post like the one I am about to drop I get in trouble. ---Especially with the sisters out there. As if I don't admonish black men constantly about the importance of personal responsibility and fatherhood.
It's just that invariably it is going to be the woman who is stuck raising that child (or children) that she cannot afford. I just wonder why you put yourselves in this position, that's all.
I mean if Joe Lothario has three or four children out there that he does not care for with women he no longer cares about, what makes you think that you are going to be any different?
Now this is going to sound harsh, and it damn sure is unconstitutional, (Skinner v. Oklahoma, I get it) but if I were King of the world birth control would be mandatory if you have to depend on any form of government assistance. Sorry. We can't just allow you to have children if you can't take care of them. At some point this becomes a public health issue. If you have three kids and you are struggling, you damn sure don't need another one.
"Lord have mercy Field are you going Nixon circa 1970 now?"
Nope. I would be very upfront with folks about what they are getting into.
"But Field, that's eugenics, how dare you? Do you know what the history of eugenics is with our people in this country? That's a slippery slope, Field. I am sure you know what will come next.
Yes I do, but desperate times......
Besides, I am not advocating for eugenics. Eugenics is *quotes from Wikipedia* "a social philosophy advocating the improvement of human genetic traits through the promotion of higher reproduction of people with desired traits (positive eugenics), and reduced reproduction of people with less-desired or undesired traits. (negative eugenics)
I am calling for none of the above. I could care less about the intelligence and traits of the people having these children. What I care about is the fact that they are not financially capable of taking care of them, and, in most cases, there is no support system in place to help them through tough financial times.
I write about this issue as someone who has a unique perspective on this particular problem in our society. I see tragic results of dysfunctional families as someone of authority in the family court system and as an advocate and defender in the criminal justice system as well. You have to believe me when I tell you that it's not pretty: Crime; poverty; and an endless cycle of hopelessness from generation to generation.
I had a lady tell me the other day that her daughter has two kids and she is only seventeen, but she is so happy because she is almost 18, and she will soon be able to get her own welfare check and take care of her own kids. Broke my heart. I didn't even have it in me to lecture her about what she had just said.
If you don't believe what I just wrote about check out this little bit of news that went down Sunday here in the Philadelphia area.
"UPPER DARBY — A 31-year-old mother of four is behind bars after her 2-year-old daughter was found running down a street naked Sunday afternoon.
Christina Staley, of the 7000 block of Clover Lane, is charged with four counts of endangering the welfare of a minor for allegedly leaving her four children — ages 2, 3, 6 and 8 — home alone in their Clover Lane home Sunday.
“Zero tolerance,” police Superintendent Michael Chitwood said on Monday. “You leave your children alone and you’ll get locked up.”
The temperature outside was about 35 degrees at 4 p.m., when police received a call that a little girl wearing no clothing had been seen running along Clover Lane, Chitwood said.
Neighbors directed responding officers to a house in the 7000 block of Clover Lane. When they knocked on the door, a 6-year-old boy answered, police said. Two other children were inside the house at the time, a 3-year-old boy and the 2-year-old girl. An 8-year-old boy returned to the house while police still were there.
“(Officers) asked where their parents were and the children said they had no idea,” Chitwood said.
Police called a cellphone number they found in the house. Staley reportedly answered, saying she was on her way home from that Pathmark on 69th Street, police said.
Staley reportedly told police she had gone to the store to pick up food and medicine, but she returned home empty-handed, police said.
Authorities are unsure if the children’s father is involved in their upbringing, but said Staley is their primary caretaker." [Source]
Yep, it's a pretty good bet that the sperm donor isn't "involved in their upbringing". Because.....well, that's what sperm donors do.
*Pic from Delco Times.